Giving Yourself Permission To Succeed
Some of us have a love/hate relationship with success. We may come from families where being poor was a synonym for honorable and “service” meant giving away everything you are good at for free. We want more, but we either feel guilty, or are made to feel guilty by family and friends when we actually start to get or go after more. To avoid the pain of rejection from family and friends, we give up or even sabotage our own success. We identify a dream, start working and start seeing it come to fruition. Then, fear success, failure, the unknown or of losing the love and support of those close to us sets in and we stop doing what will get us there. It’s like we feel like we need permission from a long lost teacher or parent in order to succeed.
The permission we need most is from ourselves.
Find Your Why
- How will my success benefit and serve others
- To whom will I be a blessing personally, once I reach this goal?
- What will I be able to do for myself and my family by achieving this goal?
- How will I feel once I’ve reached this goal?
Affirm Success
- Create affirmations that support your success and counteract your fears
- Recite them daily or whenever you feel tempted to give up on the dream
Finding the why can break through the barriers to committing to success. My “why” is seeing people happy, successful and getting unstuck. Personally, I love giving gifts,giving to causes and able to be a blessing to my family and friends. When I looked at it, being successful at what I wanted to do helped a lot more people than me. The list of who I help was great. Imagining how it would feel what life is like being able to do these things accelerates inspiration and motion. Affirmations help reprogram negative thinking and shift your perspective. Two of my favorite affirmations for success are:
- It is a good thing for me to be successful.
- I am well paid for doing work I love and through it I can bless others.
When I find myself slipping into backing off from my goals and dreams, getting complacent or fearful, I revisit or add to my list of “whys” then start affirming my success. Pretty soon, I’m so inspired and filled with joy from visualizing the great things I can do and people I can help do by being successful, it outweighs the fear and gets me in motion.
Find the “why” and give yourself permission to succeed, then get going!
